I am passionate in creating a safe space for others to explore and claim their humanity to live in joyful authenticity.I strive to be compassionate, guided by integrity and living authentically.
My life experience provides me unique perspectives.I'm a father, a brother, a son.In my career I am a retired US Air Force brigadier general, a former senior executive in the Department of Defense, a corporate vice president, a consultant, and a life coach.
Outside of the professional areas of my life I serve as an officer and on the board of directors for
the First Friday Breakfast Club charity providing scholarships to high school students advocating for equality and inclusion in their local communities.I amactive in the ManKind Project where men gather in "peer-facilitated men's groups and supports men in leading lives of integrity, authenticity, and service."
I consider myself more spiritual than religious, guided by the Serenity Prayer.
Grant me the Serenity to
Accept the things I cannot change, the
Courage to change the things I can, and the
Wisdom to know the difference.
Health, fitness, and mindfulness integral to my daily existence.I enjoy working out, yoga, running, hiking, and cycling.
Podcasts Where I Tell My Story and the Stories of Others
The ManKind Project - a passionate and purpose-driven brotherhood building and supporting the emotionally mature, accountable, and compassionate male role models that our communities so desperately need
Husbands Out to Wives (HOW):an international on-line support group for gay and bisexual men who are married to women and are out to (or working toward coming out to) their wives.
PFLAG - is the United States' first and largest organization uniting parents, families, and allies with people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ+). PFLAG National is the national organization, which provides support to the PFLAG network of local chapters. PFLAG has over 400 chapters across the United States, with more than 200,000 members and supporters.
On this day, National Coming Out Day, I stand in solidarity with others taking this bold and important step in their lives.For some this is their first time to publicly embrace who they are, for others a reaffirmation in support of those that may follow their example in the future.For me, it is the former.
During the past two years I have experienced the power of vulnerability and the love that may result, and some pain.Vulnerability requires honesty and integrity, two attributes of human character I hold in high esteem.I always felt I was in integrity with myself, when in fact for the majority of my life I was out of integrity, not being fully honest nor true with myself.I never acted to deceive.I eventually reached a point where I could no longer live with this disconnect in my character.Society, culture, my chosen profession, all the excuse for keeping the authentic me repressed.
In February of 2019 I finally admitted to myself I am a gay man.In the long run, for me to best serve myself and others I had to accept who I am and not how I thought society expected me to be.This did not come without consequences.However, I am continually surprised by the love and support that has also been the result.I no longer suffer from the depression that I also hid.
My journey is still at its beginning with each day being a new crossroads.The family I still deeply love remains strong and has a been described as all being from the same root ball, each growing in the direction it needs to blossom and flourish.
At my core I am the same man I have always been; I have the same love for my family in my many roles in life…father, brother, friend…now I no longer live with fear, doubt and pain.My vulnerability has already been an example for others to address challenges in their life.While not my intention, I’m honored if expressing my truth can be an inspiration to others working through issues in their lives.
I am not seeking validation nor praise.I am asking for your awareness of the differences and prejudices that still exist in our society and how we need to create an environment where everyone can be free to live without fear of ridicule or prejudice.