*** Pardon the mess…this site still under development. ***
In my discovery and research phase of my coming out process I consulted many resources, websites and books. Below are a list of some others might find helpful.
- First Friday Breakfast Club (FFBC): a group of GBTQ men in Des Moines IA; helps men in the coming out process; also a 501(c)3 charity providing scholarship to graduating high school seniors for post-secondary education; https://www.ffbciowa.org
- Jonathan Wilson: founder of FFBC
- Documentary/Commentary:
- State of Pride [Raymond Braun]: Fifty years after the Stonewall uprising, Oscar®-winning filmmakers Rob Epstein and Jeffrey Friedman and host Raymond Braun travel to three diverse communities – Salt Lake City, San Francisco, and Tuscaloosa, Alabama – for an unflinching look at LGBTQ Pride, from the perspective of a younger generation for whom it still has personal urgency.
- Books, Websites and Podcasts
- Daring Greatly – Brené Brown
- Rising Strong – Brené Brown
- The Velvet Rage – Alan Downs
- 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives – Dr. Joe Kort
- Married Men Coming Out: The Ultimate Guide to Becoming the Man You Were Born to Be – David Christel
- Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight – Loren A. Olson, MD
- Dr. Loren Olson – https://www.lorenaolson.com/
- Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi?: A Guide for Women Concerned about Their Men? – Joe Kort
- My Husband Is Gay: A Woman’s Guide to Surviving the Crisis – Carol Crever
- Frankly My Dear I’m Gay: A Late Bloomers Guide To Coming Out – Rick Clemons
- The Other Side of the Closet: The Coming-Out Crisis for Straight Spouses and Families – Amity Peirce Buxton
- Coming Out: I Think I’m Gay ~ The Ultimate Guide to Self-Acceptance, Coming Out, Building a Support System, and Loving Your New Life ~ ( How to Come Out of the Closet ) – Kevin Brison
- Fashionably Late: Gay, Bi, and Trans Men Who Came Out Later in Life – edited by Vinney Kineslla
- Over the Cliff: Gay Husbands in Straight Marriages – Bonnie Kaye and Doug Dittmer
- Our Family Outing: A Memoir of Coming Out and Coming Through – Joe Cobb
- LGBTQ Clients in Therapy: Clinical Issues and Treatment Strategies – Joe Kort
- The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert – John Gottman
- Gottman Marriage Guide and Workbook: https://www.gottman.com/product/seven-principles-couples-set/
- When Your Spouse Comes Out: A Straight Mate’s Recovery Manual (Haworth Series in GLBT Family Studies (GLBTFS)) – Carol Grever
- Cracking the Erotic Code: Helping Gay Men Understand Their Sexual Fantasies – Joe Kort
- Straight Jacket: Overcoming Society’s Legacy of Gay Shame – Matthew Todd
- Dr. Kevin J. Zimmerman, Graduate Theses, Iowa State Univeristy, 2013; Maintaining commitment in long-lasting mixed-orientation relationships: Gay men married to stratight women. https://lib.dr.iastate.edu/etd/13464/
- The Association for Family and Community Integrity Inc (AFCI) https://understandinggay.org
- Helpimgay.com
- Coming Out “Experts” & Coaches
- Joe Kort – https://www.joekort.com
- Rick Clemons – https://www.rickclemons.com
- Bisexuality
- Bi Foundation, also known as The American Institute of Bisexuality (AIB)
- Bi.org: mission to connect bi people around the world and provide accurate, accessible, scientifically-sound information about (bi)sexuality.
- Podcasts & Audio Stories
- Grayingrainbows.com – Coming Out LGBT+ Later in Life – podcast
- To get to know more about me, you can listen to Episode 50 of the podcast, Graying Rainbows: Coming Out Later in Life LGBT+.
- Making Gay History by Eric Marcus – podcast: powerful stories for the struggles for equality and recognition – https://makinggayhistory.com/
- Listen to Richard Rohr — Growing Up Men from On Being with Krista Tippett in Podcasts
- Grayingrainbows.com – Coming Out LGBT+ Later in Life – podcast
- Other Resources
- Prime Timers World Wide, primertimersww.org
- https://www.lgbtagingcenter.org/resources/resources.cfm?s=31
- http://www.uml.edu/TNEC/
- https://www.janefleishman.com/resources
- https://www.lgbtagingcenter.org/resources/resource.cfm?r=761
- https://www.sageusa.org/
- Michael Barber: 800 Days of Being Me – https://medium.com/@michaeljbarber/800-days-of-me-c165d639c2d3
- http://newsheels.blogspot.com/2013/07/i-thought-it-was-forever-hits-d.html
- Yes, It Matters That Pete Buttigieg Is Gay: http://tinyurl.com/y6yajb5t
- Mark Traphagen: Durham NC; came out at 62 and married over 40 years
- Front Runners Running Club (no Iowa clubs): http://www.frontrunners.org/EN/clubs/us_clubs.php#virginia
- https://www.edwardjones.com/preparing-for-your-future/calculators-checklists/life-event-checklists/divorce.html?CIRN=349491&ENL1=Y&TM2=Y&STK1=Y
- HBO Series, “Looking for…”: https://www.hbo.com/looking/season-01
- Mixed Orientation Marriage
- Husbands Out to Wives (HOW): https://how-support.org/about-how/
- Facing A Mixed-Orientation Marriage with Gratitude and Hope – https://www.huffpost.com/entry/facing-a-mixed-orientation_b_14234452
- https://www.huffpost.com/topic/mixed-orientation-marriages?guccounter=1&guce_referrer=aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuZ29vZ2xlLmNvbS8&guce_referrer_sig=AQAAAJ0X1VIkmsNaOvG-7VVz5X30vGB_kAl03U_VTXvK5C4bOWJTJXzu4LsH8UcM4iklNqfLlgYxTRPXnNzvQv8oqIb0OYH2ujJMuZlGtrOf3AB0s9EvCTmXFB1KoEFOxF2XixGdkyhKi8H56fU-tQlszB5a92P-LeHm4ExVHsmuvjEB
- Choosing Gratitude and Hope | Matt Nightingale and Luanne Nightingale | TEDxSonomaCounty: https://youtu.be/eHJs04-YIYc
- Coming Out Cass Model: https://livingfabulous.org/lfp/cass-model-revisited-a-bisexual-perspective.html